Breaking the Silence: Why Many Survivors Stay
One of the most misunderstood aspects of domestic abuse is why survivors stay in harmful relationships. Outsiders may see the danger clearly, but survivors often experience a complicated mix of fear, love, hope, and survival instincts that make leaving extremely difficult.
Abusive relationships are rarely abusive all the time. Periods of kindness, apologies, or promises to change can create emotional bonds that are hard to break. Survivors may believe that things will improve or feel responsible for holding the family together. Over time, constant manipulation and control can erode self-confidence, making survivors doubt their own judgment.
Practical barriers also play a significant role. Many survivors worry about housing, finances, childcare, immigration status, or losing access to their community. In some cases, the risk of violence increases when a survivor tries to leave, making safety planning essential.
Breaking the silence begins with understanding—not blame. When survivors are met with empathy and accurate information, they are more likely to seek help and make informed decisions. Support systems should focus on safety, dignity, and empowerment rather than pressure.
At Saarthi, we work to create safe spaces where survivors can share their experiences, learn about resources, and regain control of their lives. Every survivor’s journey is different, and every step toward safety matters.